We’ve all been there: You have a good feeling about a prospective love interest, you put yourself out there, and instead of being welcomed with open arms, she rejects you. It’s the freakin’ worst.
It can sometimes even rattle your confidence if it’s nasty enough. I don’t care if you’re bulletproof, nobody, no matter how awesome, hates getting shut down and sent packing.
So, how do you respond? Do you try to diss them back? Do you try to barrel through the rejection because you think she actually likes you? Maybe you go all “Top Gun” and stop the show with some awful rendition of “You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling?”
God, I hope not.
When a woman rejects you, it puts you in a tough spot. You have to think quickly on your feet and catch yourself before you fall flat on the floor.
So, before you get into your car, start the engine, and the begin the long, arduous journey to the danger zone, consider a few of the things you could be doing instead:
Ever met that woman at the bar, talked to her for hours, bought her drinks, and then at the end of the night, she just kinda … disappears?
Thing is — she probably was never interested. She decided a long time ago that she wasn’t into you but that you were an OK guy to talk to to keep the even less desirable guys away. She didn’t share this info with you, so you went on and on, thinking there was some kind of connection between the two of you.
When a woman rejects you, she’s making it abundantly clear that she isn’t interested (unless she’s playing games, which is a whole separate red flag). She’s saving both you and her a lot of time. She’s freeing up your night to talk to someone else, to have a good time. As cruel as it feels, she’s doing you a solid.
Next time you get shut down, just freakin’ thank her for saving you from another hour of buying her drinks and trying to get to know the “real her.”
Here’s the part where rejection goes off the rails, when you GAF. I get that in many ways, rejection feels like an affront on you personally, but it really isn’t.
Sometimes, people just don’t click. Maybe the woman who rejected you just had the worst day of her life.
Maybe she’s in a relationship. Maybe she’s an alien from Neptune and doesn’t want you to find out that she actually has tentacles for legs.
There’s just no damn way of knowing, and frankly, it’s not worth finding out. As long as you keep things in perspective, a little rejection shouldn’t bother you.
Look, at the end of the day, we’re all going to get pushed down. We can whine about it and feel embarrassed, or we could freakin’ just roll with it like a boss.
Find The Humor In It
Dating isn’t the serious, life-or-death thing people make it out to be. Remember the whole goal is to find somebody you actually like and enjoy spending time with. To get there, you’re going to have a lot of weird and ridiculous things happen to you.
Look at it this way: Have you ever had one of those moments where you thought to yourself, “Man, in a year, I’ll look back on this and laugh?”
Instead, try laughing about it now. Why wait?
Besides, someone out there probably has it worse anyways.