It turns out being in contact with your ex isn’t very healthy for you. In fact, it may actually highlight certain issues with your personality.
A new study by researchers at Oakland University revealed that people with “dark” personality traits are more likely to be friends with their former sexual partners.
These “dark” personality traits belong to “those who are generally disagreeable, manipulative, and exploitative” which, let’s be honest, sounds like someone you know.
There are a lot of reasons to stay in contact with someone you cared about for a long time. It is healthy and good to have someone to talk to and to whom you can express your feelings.
But there are a lot of reasons to not talk to your ex. It can be mentally draining. You begin to rehash old fights you had and end up just being vindictive and passive aggressive.
According to Business Insider, most people stay in contact with their ex purely for emotional stability:
“In general, people rated reliability/sentimentality as the most important reason for staying friends with an ex. Pragmatism and sexual access were rated as the least important.”
It is reassuring to know that your ex still cares about what you have to say or what is going on in your life.
On the other hand, there is a reason you broke up with your ex in the first place. Sometimes it’s best to truly move on, even if that means not having someone to confide in.
Relationships are complicated and if you have a happy, healthy friendship with your ex, that is great. More power to you!
But if your ex only comes around to gain something from you, it is time to cut ties. You’ll be better off for it.